In working with clients, there is a common theme that emerges, regardless of why we initially began working together. They longed to give their lives some deeper meaning. As long as they had not discovered this deeper meaning (or at least begin asking the deeper questions), they were more often than not feeling frustrated, fatigued, unclear, and on the wrong track. Sometimes it was obvious, but often it was subtle and insidious and playing out in one or more areas of their lives. We all want to feel in our own flow more often than not -- developing some inner peace in order to share that with others.
For me, at times when I'm less centered, impatient or irritated, it's typically the result of not feeling steady, clear. At those times, there's a physical and/or emotional low level ache or full blown tension resulting from the gap between how I am showing up in any particular moment and how I think I should be showing up OR how things presently are and how I think they should be.
The result? Lots of energy spent trying to close the gap -- spinning in resistance to the present moment which interferes with my being present, energized and available to respond in the most effective, life supporting way. Often just out of habit I'll go through a cycle of judgment, anxiety, fear, whatever; but now more often than not I'm able to pause, become aware of what's happening, recognize that I have a choice in how to respond, and take actions that move my life forward instead of playing old, outdated tapes in my head.
What I realized is that the gap is an invitation to move our lives forward and the anxiety is valuable information, a wake up call. That recognition gives new meaning and purpose to life's challenges which can then help keep us focused on the vision for our lives instead of getting stuck in the normal ups and downs of just being human.
Are you in the gap?
Be well.
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