The Missing Link...

At our December Meetup, we talked about getting clear on the vision for our lives by focusing on what we WANT (not what we don't want) and then creating little mental movies in our head (visualize) detailing what it would feel like when we achieve it. For example, instead of focusing on finding a partner who DOES NOT smoke, IS NOT in debt, etc... focus on finding a partner who IS healthy, IS ambitious, etc. State what you want in the positive...

And once we truly BELIEVE that what we want is on it's way to us and feel the emotion of that truth, our minds look for situations that reinforce that belief and we begin to live into that truth by attracting the people and situations to us that are in alignment.

John Assaraf puts it this way... Thoughts + FEELING + Action = Results.

If any one of those pieces is missing, our results will fall short. I tend to be really good at the thoughts, getting crystal clear on what I want, and I am pretty good with action being a type A personality ...but the weakest component of that formula for me is FEELING. I sometimes let doubt interfere with (or delay) my results, which is what I will be working on in 2010.

How does this resonate with you?

No More Resolutions...

There’s a story I read recently about a Native American grandfather who was talking to his grandson after 9-11 about violence and cruelty in the world and how something like 9-11 can happen. He said it was as if two wolves were fighting in his heart. One wolf was vengeful and angry; the other wolf was compassionate and loving. The young man asked his grandfather which wolf would win the fight in his heart. And the grandfather answered “the one that wins will be the one that I choose to feed.”

What a powerful illustration of how WE determine our experience of life by where we choose to place our attention and by which thoughts we reinforce/feed/nurture with that attention.

Our own choices about which thoughts to nurture determine our experience of life. No exceptions. Think about it...how often do we subtly nurture fear-based thoughts of lack, judgment, jealousy, regret, guilt, resentment as opposed to love-based thoughts of generosity, compassion, faith, trust, forgiveness, service...and then blame outside circumstances for messing with the quality of our life? We’re often so focused on trying to rearrange outside circumstances (if I made more money I’d be happy, if she would just behave the right way I’d be happy, if my job was different, etc.) instead of dealing with how we are thinking about our circumstances, which in turn determines the choices we make in response to the quality of our thoughts, which in turn determines our experience.

So as I move into 2010, my focus is not on resolutions to lose weight, make more money, get a bigger house, etc.; my underlying intention this coming year is to continue developing a sharper sense of self-awareness so that I make loving, life supporting choices more often than not. How? Reading, journaling, workshops, teleclasses, retreats, etc...there are so many resources now available to support living a powerful, authentic life. For example, www.healingwiththemasters.com has been an incredible source of inspiration and practical tools these past few months! Find what works best for you.

My life is most definitely a reflection of the choices I make each day and the habits that reinforce those choices, so with an evolving sense of self-awareness 2010 for me will be about continuing to align (or realign) my thoughts and habits so that they correspond to my highest desires. Not just to think about my desires for my career, finances, relationships, health, etc. as if they may or may not happen; but to get crystal clear on my vision so that in the present moment I can think and act as if I KNOW what I desire is on its way to me and match my thinking and habits to that truth. Then, just as importantly, I let go of trying to control HOW it shows up. I just do my part and then put my trust in a power greater than myself that whatever is the highest good will become apparent. Invite you to do the same.

Wishing everyone much abundance in every way possible in 2010 and in years coming. Be well.